Who's your lover?

Why is it idiosyncratic to take oneself seriously? Why are we afraid to admit that a specific thing said by a specific someone was a source of chagrin for us? 

Is it because we believe that a plenitude of virtues that indicate one being very serious about their self respect or esteem make them 'unapproachable' and difficult to talk to? maybe. It is true that once you start alluding towards that fact that you didn't quite like someone's words, people will term you as 'pompous' and quick 'umbrage' taking. 

Think of yourself as a delectable vanilla bean ice-cream tub and the 'things' people say that you don't approve of as chocolate chips. (I know this is an absurd analogy but bear with me, a foodie). Of Course seldomly accepting some chocochips would be okay and it wouldn't matter but then the all the chocolate chips will see you accepting the other ones with a grin; and so all of them would decide to take a holy dip. Not immediately but in lethargic adagio, you will turn mousy. The vanilla didn't lose its flavour when it turned brown but the moment when the first chocolate chip took the dip and you didn't say anything.

You will always be accepted by everyone until the moment you utter one syllable of disagreement or disapproval. Why? because people who laugh on jokes about their own selves even when they don't like it are punching bags and everyone loves a punching bag! Don't you? No one likes a trampoline that reacts with the same force that you hit it with, (unless its a real trampoline, everyone loves it).

We should stop fighting people and our own conscience about the reasons of exclusion from a certain group because (I will state a fact here, hate me if you want) :If you had to be 'included', you were never there. Don't be afraid to leave your baggage at any station in life, let go of instances, people, friends and things that don't make you happy. Don't forget that sometimes the stuff inside and other times, the suitcase itself is heavy; leave whatever is. If you were meant to carry it, it wouldn't feel heavy and if it does, you weren't meant to carry it. 

Life will always give you the choice, to be the mousy chocolate chip ice cream that everyone loves or be the pristine vanilla bean one that you love and people are afraid to touch because with one untidy touch, the vanilla will throw the whole scoop out. No matter what, you'll always be an ice-cream that is loved, you just have to choose your lover.

self love, to and from Navyaa.